Let’s go to the local grocery store, shall we? I have to pick up a few things and I thought you might like to come along with me. It’s recently been renovated; and now it's
a big, fancy store that sells furniture and clothing, and even offers wine
tastings! But one thing hasn’t changed a bit. The checkout lines still have big
displays of candy bars just in case your sweet tooth needs a quick fix. Of
course, those candy bars always tempt the kiddos who are shopping with their
parents. And sure enough, there’s one right now throwing a fit in the checkout
line. She looks to be about four years old; and all her mother wants to do is
pay for her cart full of groceries and go home. But little miss is making that
mighty difficult. She’s screaming and throwing herself on the floor because she
wants a candy bar. She’s screaming over and over, “KitKat bar! KitKat bar!
KitKat bar!” Her mom is mortified, but she’s holding her ground. No KitKat bar
for her little one today.
I invited you along to witness this all-too-familiar scene
because Jesus describes something very similar in his teaching about prayer
that I read from the gospel of Luke just a few minutes ago (Luke 11:1-13). It
involved a man who had an unexpected visitor drop by late at night. Jesus
doesn’t tell us who he was, so let’s imagine that it was an old friend who had
been bumped from an overbooked airline flight. Instead of sleeping in the
terminal, he took a cab to his friend’s house where he figured he could crash
on the couch. And he was hungry! He’d missed dinner before his flight; and that
little bag of peanuts didn’t fill up even a corner of his growling stomach! But
when his host looked in the fridge, it was as empty as Mother Hubbard’s
cupboard. His two teenaged boys had polished off everything edible. They’d even
put the peanut butter jar back in the cupboard empty! The friend said not to
worry; he could make it till McDonald’s opened in the morning. But his host
wouldn’t hear of it! He wasn’t about to let his old friend go to bed hungry! But
it was so late that even the Dairy Mart down the street was closed. So he went
next door to ask for a glass of milk and a peanut butter sandwich. The only
trouble was, his neighbor was sound asleep; and he didn’t take too kindly to
the doorbell ringing at 1 a.m. He hollered down from his bedroom window to go
away. He had to get up at 4 a.m. and he needed his sleep! But the doorbell kept
on ringing. That host eventually got the peanut butter sandwich and the glass
of milk (together with a few choice words). He pestered and pestered his
neighbor until that neighbor gave him what he wanted just to get rid of him!
That’s how persistent Jesus says we should be in our prayers.
We should pester God like that host pestered his neighbor for a peanut butter
sandwich. Jesus tells us to pray and pray and pray… and then pray some more! If
God won’t answer the phone, then we should pound on the front door. If an email
doesn’t get any result, then we should send a text message. If the doorbell
isn’t working, then we should try throwing some pebbles at the window. Jesus
tells us that we should do everything that we can possibly do to get God to
respond to us! When we pray, we’re allowed to be pests.
But you may be wondering: why is it OK for us to pester God
in prayer, but not OK for a child to pester her mom in the checkout line? What’s
the difference between a praying Christian and a child throwing a tantrum? When
a little one throws a tantrum, it’s a one-way conversation. That child doesn’t
want to hear anything from her mom except “yes.” It’s all about the child, who
wants what she wants when she wants it! Hopefully, prayer is more of a
conversation than that, a two-way conversation with God in which we ask and God
responds to what we have to say. Now, it’s true that sometimes we pray tantrum
prayers; because sometimes that kind of prayer is all that we can manage. We
are in such a panic that we can’t really listen to God responding to us. We’re
suffering, or we’re grieving, or we’re angry – or maybe all three – and if we
pray at all, all we can say to God is “Help!” or “Why?” And that’s OK. The good
news is that God is a big boy. God can handle that kind of prayer. God knows
that sometimes we just have to let it all out to be able to move on. But if
we’re stuck in prayers like those – if they are all that we can offer up –
maybe we need to think about why we are praying in the first place. Are we only
praying so that we get our own way; or are we honestly trying to connect with
God so that our will is closer to God’s will? Prayer, at its best, is real
communication with God. As we pray, we should be listening for God’s response
to us and open to being changed ourselves in the process!
Here’s what I mean. Let’s say that as you pray, you ask God
to put a big hole in your front yard. That’s a simple enough request. And as
you pray, you are really listening for what God has to say about that. It seems
to me that a couple of things might happen. That hole might magically appear
right in the middle of the yard. Or your neighbor might come over with a
brand-new shovel just itching to try it out. Hey, your prayer has been
answered! But it doesn’t always work that way, does it? Maybe the hole doesn’t appear. Instead, as you pray,
you might come to realize that you’re asking God to put the hole in the wrong
place. It would really be better for that hole to be in the side yard. So, you change your prayer.
Or you might realize that a hole in the front yard really isn’t a good idea –
at least, not right now. So, you pray for God to show you some alternatives.
And there is one response that we are all afraid to hear – God just might hand
you a shovel and tell you to get to work! Let’s face it, we tend to ask God for
things that we can do ourselves. Prayer really does change things. And many
times, we are the ones who are
changed!
So go ahead and be a pest. Pray and pray and pray some more.
Pray for what you honestly want, not for what you think you should want. And as you pray, listen to
what God has to say to you. Prayer really does change the world! But many times
that change begins only when we allow God to change us!