Monday, December 11, 2017

Family Gatherings

So, how are the family gatherings going this year? Do you look forward to them, or do you break out in hives at the thought of holiday reunions? This sermon that I preached on the second Sunday of Advent ponders what God thinks of our human family -- and why God decided to join the party.



The holidays are the season for family gatherings. We’ve just finished Thanksgiving, and now we’re headed into Christmas. For many of us, that means that three, four, or maybe even five generations are all together in one place at one time, elbow to elbow, sharing meals, memories, and merriment. Those experiences can be marvelous! When a family is loving and supportive, you can feel like you’re in the middle of a Norman Rockwell painting, with everyone joining together in harmony: grandma and grandpa, mom and dad, sisters and brothers, aunts, uncles, and cousins.

Family isn’t always like that, though. Family gatherings sometimes are less like a Norman Rockwell painting and more like a scene from Murder on the Orient Express. We all have at least one relative who gets on our last nerve; and some of us have whole families that we would like to ship en masse to outer Mongolia! I’ll bet that you’ve met these relatives sometime along the line (even if they are someone else’s relatives): Cousin Ben thinks that he’s funny, but his never-ending jokes are usually offensive. Aunt Maggie is a complainer. Nothing is ever good enough for her, whether it’s the food, the wine, or the gift that she got in the white elephant exchange. Uncle Christopher thinks that he’s still a young stud, and he’ll hit on every woman in the room during the course of the evening. And we can’t forget Cousin Lil, who can’t stop talking politics. She usually ends up in a screaming match with someone who is at the opposite end of the political spectrum. I don’t know about you, but relatives like these make me crazy! The trouble is, if I want to see the relatives that I do like, I have to put up with the relatives that I don’t like. Sometimes I wonder if it’s worth it. After all, I could curl up with a cup of cocoa and a good book in front of the fireplace, and I wouldn’t have to put up with all the nonsense! Sometimes I seriously consider skipping the party altogether.

We probably all feel that way now and then. Even God considered skipping the party long ago. You heard some of God’s thoughts in this morning’s scripture reading from the prophet Hosea (11:1-9). The text begins with God reminiscing, as we all do at the holidays: how God brought the Hebrews out of Egypt and led them to their own land. God pictures Israel as a child, and Godself as their mother: giving birth to a nation, teaching them to stand on their own, feeding them, and comforting them tenderly. And what did those people do in return? Why, they worshiped Baal, the Canaanite fertility god! The Israelite nation was like a spoiled teenager who shows up at the family gathering and then sulks in the corner with his head buried in his smartphone because he’d rather be someplace else. By the middle of that reading from Hosea, God has had it with Israel! God is not only going to skip the party; God is planning to give Israel a lesson that it will never forget! But the reading doesn’t end that way. On the verge of throwing the book at Israel, God suddenly stops. “How can I give you up?” God asks. “How can I hand you over? How can I treat you like other nations that I have destroyed?” In fact, God decides not to do things that way anymore, because God isn’t a human being who responds in anger when human beings turn into jerks. God decides not only to join the family gathering, but to arrive patient and loving. You heard how God did that, too. It’s in the gospel of John. “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only son… And God didn’t send his son into the world to condemn the world, but to save it.” (John 3:16-17)

Things haven’t changed much since Hosea’s time. Oh, we may not worship Baal anymore; but we give God plenty of reasons to skip the family celebration year after year. In his classic story “A Christmas Carol,” Charles Dickens indicated two of them. Near the end of the visit of the Ghost of Christmas Present to Ebenezer Scrooge, the ghost throws open his robe to reveal two emaciated children. One, he announces, is Want and the other is Ignorance. They are the results of humanity’s greed and thirst for power. Those dreadful children are still at every single family gathering that we humans have during the holidays. There are those who are hungry and thirsty and cold because some of us, like Scrooge, hoard the resources that we have. And there are those of us who live in ignorance, because some of us don’t really care about anybody but themselves. With family like that, why in the world would God want to show up?

But God does show up, year after year after year, ever since the son of two peasants was born in a barn in a little town in the Middle East. And the things that we emphasize at Christmas time are not the things that concern God at all. We focus on shining lights and beautiful decorations and gaily wrapped gifts, all in a cozy family room by a cheerfully blazing fireplace. But because God cares about injustice, we should ponder the injustice of a government that forced people to travel miles from their homes just so that taxes could be increased. Because God cares that we live lives that are fulfilled, we should contemplate the blackness of a midnight stable – like the blackness that we live in most of the time – and that the child born there is our Light. And because God cares about our behavior, we might consider that the Christ child was born in the midst of animals because we behave like animals ourselves most of the time. Jesus was born so that he could teach us what justice is really all about; so that he could lead us out of the darkness that we live in; and so that he could show us how to live as human beings instead of like violent, greedy animals. Jesus wasn’t born to condemn us; Jesus was born to save us! Jesus was born because we were getting on God’s last nerve; but God couldn’t bear the thought of skipping the family gathering, so God took steps to fix things!

This year, when we celebrate the birth of the Christ child one more time, stop and thank God for coming to the party! You might even try just a little harder to be the kind of person that God would really like to associate with. After all, we’re the reason that God is here at all. This year, let’s make God feel welcome, shall we?

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